It was back in the 1980s. My wife and I, with a lot of help from friends, had just set up a safe house to provide accommodation for young people who had been rejected or exploited by those who should have loved and cared for them. But as the house filled with seventeen, eighteen and nineteen year olds, I was in for a shock. There was rarely a ‘please’, a ‘thank you’, a smile or even eye contact from any of our residents.
And that’s not all. To help make the house a home, we’d kitted it out with wonderful artwork and a huge TV in the lounge. Yet soon after our first residents arrived, everything disappeared. All stolen and sold by the very young people we had worked so hard to create an Oasis for!
I was angry. What was wrong with these young people? The problem, however, as I slowly realised, was mine not theirs.
If those wounds had been broken or disfigured limbs, I would have readily compensated for them. But because they were psychological, emotional and internal; born of neglect, abandonment, fear and rejection; at first I didn’t recognise them at all.
The old world, binary thinking around morality would describe these dysregulated and traumatised children, young people and adults as selfish and morally flawed. It is too easy to assume, for instance, that all violence is a selfish, immoral, outrageous act of personal power and defiance, and that punishment is the most meaningful way to correct the problem.
The reality is that these children are almost all victims of circumstance who have ‘appropriately’ adapted to the dysfunctional world they have been forced to endure. They don’t decide to explode, but their capacity to manage their emotions is limited. Something triggers them and they are spun out of control. Only after the whirlwind has passed can they regain a sense of conscious awareness and realise the gravity of the thing they have done.
Our assumption is that children are born with resilience built in. ‘Don’t worry. They will be OK. They will bounce back. They’ll be fine, they are only young. They'll get over it’, we say. But it’s not true. Children are not resilient.
This means that if we are going to make real progress in our support of individual children and families at a micro level, we’ve also got to recognise and grapple with the fact that trauma-creating bias takes place at whole-community and societal levels. If a system is truly trauma informed, for instance, it will also be anti-racist. Which is why the fight against racism, Islamophobia, homophobia, transphobia, gender inequality and the marginalisation of other people groups, along with the recognition of neurodiversity and the impact of disability are so important. That’s also why the reform of all our welfare and social systems is essential, as we work to bring to an end policies and methods of working which either implicitly or explicitly carry with them prejudices and biases, or the seeds of family or community fragmentation.
You can judge the wisdom of any society by the investment it makes in its children: The importance of taking a trauma-informed approach to supporting children. In this episode Steve’s guest and expert witness is Dr Celia Sadie. In part one Steve sets out his fifth principle, in part two Dr Celia responds.
Dr Celia Sadie is the Director of Care and Wellbeing at Oasis Restore – England’s first secure school. She is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist and a specialist in adolescent mental health and psychological therapies. Her career has spanned adolescent in-patient and youth custody settings, as well as work in private practice and as an expert witness. Dr Celia has trained, published, and presented her work widely in national and international settings, including contributing to the Lammy Review (2017) and Youth Justice Conventions. Much of her work has focused on the development of trauma-responsive services and on the particular challenges faced by adolescents in custody and those who work with them.
This podcast series, and the accompanying book by Steve Chalke sets out ten tried and tested practical principles for ‘how’ to develop joined up, cost effective, community empowering work, gleaned from the hard-won experience that sit at the heart of the mission of Oasis over the last four decades. Steve talks to 13 expert witnesses who help him bring his book to life with their own thoughts and lived experiences. We believe it’s time for a radical reset. It's time for A Manifesto for Hope!
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The Manifesto of Hope podcast is brought to you by Oasis. Our producer is Peter Kerwood and the sound and mix engineer is Matteo Magariello.
If we are going to build and fund an integrated and holistic system of care for children, young people and their families; one which is aligned and attuned to the real needs of those it seeks to serve, we have to reimagine society together.